We have a choice on how we will think. We can choose to focus on the negative or realize the positive. It is true that bad things have happened to you. In fact, you have probably dealt with tragedy. You may have been deeply wounded in your life. You may have been abandoned. You may have been abused. Your scars, or wounds, are very real, and I do not want to belittle them or ignore them. You should acknowledge them. You should deal with them. But you must not embrace them.
The thing about wounds is we all have them. Your past may be horrific, so is someone else’s. This does not mean your past is not important, but it means you have some liberty in how you will deal with that past. In other word’s depressed people, entirely negative people, and unsuccessful people have bad stuff in their past, and negative impacts in their lives. On the other hand happy people, entirely optimistic people, and successful people have bad stuff in their past, and negative impacts in their lives. The negative influences in our lives do not have a direct correlation with the outcome of our lives. Our attitude and responses to negative influences are what make us who we are and determine the course of our life. The older I get the more I realize we have a choice of how we will live.
I think that’s what this verse means. You have a choice to see the glass half full or half empty, and everyone’s glass is pretty much the same. This is important, because your thoughts affect everything.
“Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words. Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions. Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits. Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character. Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny.” -Chinese Proverb
I know bad things have happened. Ugly things. Terrible things. Things of which we do not even speak. They should not have happened. It should be different. But it is not. The hard truth is those things did happen, and that will never change. But you can. You do not have to be defined by your past. You can start by thinking on higher things. You can start by thinking of all the good in your life, regardless of how well it is hidden. It is there. It is in your thoughts. I hope you find it.